Self Worth

What is worth? The english dictionary puts it as, the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated. We can put a value on things, items, but we cannot put a value on people, reason being, you can’t value love, feelings, emotions etc. I can put a price tag value on my Laptop, TV, Car, but I cannot put a value for my children, family and loved ones, you simply can’t.

At the same time, we need to know how important each and everyone of us is in this society, we each have a role to play as individuals and without that one person, the line is incomplete and may not work properly. A father has a role to play in a family, while the mother has a different role, each as important to the other. When the child goes to school, the teacher has a role to play in the child’s life. If the roles are not done as they are to be done, then a problem will definitely arise. For example, if a child has been given homework in school by the teacher, but when the child comes home and the parent does not insist on the importance of homework, and infant tells the child to ignore the homework given, then the child will learn to be disobedient to his teachers and rebel. When one parent disciplines a child and the other tries to stop them, not only is it bad, but it will also make the child who was being disciplined to disrespect the parent and look at them with contempt (worthless).

What of couples? Truth is every relationship, every marriage is prone to attacks, none is perfect 100%, the only difference there is, is what the partners will do when their relationships and or marriages are on the rocks. Some will fight for them, while others will lay back thinking they have it all figured out. while yeah, you might think, you have it all figured out for sometime, party like a rock star, disrespect your partner like they don’t exist in this world, put all the ‘wrong people first’, and all the ‘right people last’. The wrong people whom you put first are all about fun and they make you feel good, while the right people, will always tell you the truth of the matter, (which you don’t want to hear) and so you would rather put these people very far away so that you may enjoy ‘your moments’ of being lied to by the ‘wrong people.’ Before you realise it, your family is broken, you don’t know where to start in terms of mending it, but the worst part is, you would have lost the trust and love of the ‘right people’ whom you so ignored at some point, because they weren’t ‘fun’ enough.


No one should make you feel worthless, and anyone who makes you feel like that for whatever reason, is not a nice person and they don’t have your best interests at heart. We are all created in the image of God, no where in the Bible does it state that some where created in the image of God, while some where created in the image of satan. Therefore, why should someone else make you feel worthless? Yes they may say something negative, and words do have a way of cutting across our hearts and breaking it into two, but they are still just words! As painful as those words may be, we have assurance from God of how much he loves us, and that is why He died on the cross for all of us. God didn’t die for ‘certain’ people, no! He died for all of us, rich, poor, black, white, asian, caucasian, muslims, hindus, and every other culture and or religion, Christ died for ALL.

That said, hold your head up high, you are a child of God, you are a child of the King that is seated on the Throne! You are heirs, joint heirs to the kingdom of God, oh wow! Why then should we let anyone make us feel like we don’t belong anywhere, yet we belong to the Kingdom of God? If they don’t seem to think that we belong in their ‘clique’, then they are the ones to move on, and find people, who they think fit perfectly in their ‘selfish’ cliques. The value of a mother cannot be replaced, neither can the value of a father. The value of friends and loved ones, is also unique, today am here, tomorrow am not. Make every moment count, spend every minute loving one another as we have been commanded by God, there is no need to fight, there is no need to hate. If you find your heart is full of hate for another person, then pray to God to help you, because, that is definitely not from God. God is love, and His love is pure. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8  “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.


No man can make you feel worthy, it is only God….. May the Love of our Father in Heaven be upon us all now and always!


  1. It is sometimes hard not to feel inferior when your friends are the one making you feel worthless. How do you face against your own people who should be supporting you but all they do is mock


    1. One thing I have realised is that people who mock others, usually have their own issues going on, and so they release their stress by making others feel worthless, It’s very sickening.

      At the same time, the Bible advices us to love and be good to those who curse us and hate us, and by doing this, you find slowly by slowly they tend to change. It may take time, but they do change. Love is the only way

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