Forgiving – is it as easy as 1 2 3?

Proverbs 25:21-22 If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you. As I was reading this proverb, it reminded me of the many times people have been nasty to me and at one point or another instead of being good to them, I also wanted to retaliate in doing bad things to them. Sometimes I let my feelings get the best of me, but I am learning to let go and let God. It usually gets more painful when its someone that you love that has hurt you so badly and all that goes into your head is “how could they?” this is the point when you start remembering all the good things that you have ever done to this person, and all you can now see in them, is the bad that they have done through the years. I tell you what, we allow ourselves to get manipulated by the devil one too many times, without us even knowing it! he sneaks in when we are angry, upset, and all he ever does is make us sin, then remind us of everything that we did in the past. Unfortunately, because we have been bruised and hurt, we don’t reason, and we allow ourselves to be used by the devil.


A few days ago, I must admit I allowed myself to be used in doing something bad. I got into an argument with my husband and we weren’t even in speaking terms and because he was on the wrong, I decided that I would pay him back by doing the same thing, being a bad wife. As I was thinking what to do, he gave me cash to bank for him and immediately an idea came into my head, and I allowed myself to plan a manipulative strategy of lying to him that I had lost the cash. I knew that he would say he would have forgiven me, but he would also feel disappointed and annoyed that I was careless, but at that moment, I didn’t care, revenge was all that mattered. In my own ‘stupid’ mind, I thought to myself that God was okay with my plan, how crazy is that? but at that moment, nothing else mattered. Anyways, so I take that cash and put it in an envelope, then put it in my back pack. I reach my place of work and I call my husband to let him know that his cash has been stolen, he was calm, collected and he just said “its okay baby, we will be okay.” At that moment I wanted to tell him am lying, but I continued anyways. I took the cash and put it in the safe, so that I wasn’t tempted to use it. As I go on in the day, I came across an article that made me go back to my senses. It spoke of untimely death and that at any moment anything could happen, and with that I asked myself, If I was to die now, I will most definitely go to hell because I lied, I was angry and I was manipulative. I instantly asked God to forgive me for my evil plans and and sent my dearest husband a message of apology, stating everything that I planned.

So yes, we all can be used by the devil if we give him a foothold, we all can do manipulative stuff, if we allow our minds to be carried away. My husband forgave me and we are doing great thanks be to God. Therefore, Instead of reciprocating evil with evil, do good at all times. As long as we live, the plain truth is this, we won’t stop hurting, people will still try to take advantage of our ‘niceness,’ so how do we overcome and not allow ourselves to be thrown into a pit of anger and rage? Solomon puts it very clearly, when our enemy or even loved ones, do bad things to us, don’t reciprocate into doing the same thing, but rather doing the exact opposite of what they just did. When we do this, whoever it was that was nasty to us, will wonder why we are being nice to them, yet they were bad to us, you will be heaping burning coals on their head and this will cause them to ask a lot of questions or even change their ways

Lesson learnt the hard way!!

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